Parenting is two nervous systems, one relationship. It is a dance of self-regulation as the parent, to be able to co-regulate with our children. When we know what state we are in we can move into regulation, when we are regulation we can support our child’s regulation.

When we can understand our nervous system, we can understand that our responses are our body’s adaptations to keep us safe. When we can understand that, we can compassionately re-ground in safety, and our responses change.

Your physical symptoms of distress our real, and by listening to them you can tune into the needs underneath.

When we are aware of what nervous system state we are in, we have choices and choices allow us the ability to move back to regulation, if the threat has passed.